29 April 2019

Every person processes grief differently and experiences a unique bereavement journey. Part of that journey may involve travelling back to revisit and reflect on cherished memories and moments.

Keeping loved one’s memories alive could help you to process the loss of someone close to you. By creating a memorial book you can create something special and physical that may help you to work through your grief.

What is a memory box?

A memory box or a keepsake box contains a selection of memorable and meaningful items or memorabilia that belonged to a loved one. Creating a memory box can be a powerful way to keep precious memories of a loved one alive.

Although thinking about your loved one and the special memories you shared can be emotional, you might also find happiness and meaning while reflecting on your memories with them. The objects and memories stored inside the box can offer comfort while you think back on happy times spent together.

You could even get a family member or close friend to help you source objects and support you through the process of making a memory box.

Who is the keepsake box for?

A memory or keepsake box can be created by anyone who wants to remember a loved one who has died.

It may even be created by a person who wants to be remembered by friends or family after they have died - or by a parent who wants to pass on memories to their children after their time.

How do you personalise a memory box?

You can make a simple memory box from any lidded cardboard box or tin, such as a shoe box or a large biscuit tin, or you could buy a box specifically for the purpose.

You can be as creative as you like and create a personalised memory box by decorating it using paint, fabric or markers. You could stick a photo of your loved one, or something that reminds you of them, on the lid.

You needn’t finish the box in one go, and can take your time to hand pick and collate special items which remind you of the person. You can even create a digital version of the memory box by saving your photos and writing your memories on a word document.

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Ideas for what to place inside a memory box

It can be hard to get started with filling the keepsake box with special items from your loved one’s life. A good place to begin is to think back to memorable experiences you enjoyed together, special times in your lives that you shared together and will always remember.

Here are some ideas for the kind of items that can be placed in a bereavement memory box:

  • Old photos from the person’s life or taken at a special event such as a wedding, graduation or memorable holiday.
  • Personal items that belonged to your loved one. This could include a favourite piece of clothing such as a scarf or tie, a watch, jewellery, or a favourite CD or book they loved.
  • Any keepsakes of your time together - concert tickets, postcards, a seashell from that beach side holiday.
  • Anything which reminds you of them - it could be something related to their hobbies or interests such as a painting, a poem they wrote, a cricket ball or a pressed flower from the garden they tended.
  • A bottle of perfume or aftershave that reminds you of them.
  • Cards, letters or special notes given to you by the person.
  • If you have any audio or video clips of them, you can copy these onto a CD/DVD and leave these in the box.
  • Any lovely messages or cards received from close family or friends following their funeral

You could even create a memory book as a keepsake for remembering someone special.